“I felt like it was better just to give in because everyone is having sex and I am tired of being the outsider.”–Jessica.
Many teens, especially boys, feel pressure to have sex before they are ready. According to research released this week, some 63 percent of teens believe that waiting to have sex is a good idea, but few people actually do. One in three boys ages 15-17 say they feel pressure to have sex, often from male friends. Teen girls feel less pressure; only 23 percent said they felt such coercion. Researchers questioned 1,854 subjects between the ages of 13 and 24 in a national survey.
The statistics above show that not everyone is having sexual relations.
True, the above statics are higher than a good society would want, with 2 out of 3 teens being sexually active but the majority of teens, 63 percent; feel that waiting to have sex is a good thing. We can think of many things that teens are doing today that does not end well at all. Because the majority of a group is doing something, this does not make it right or wise. Let us look at what many teens that are having sex are also going through.
Grief, Anxiety, and Unhappiness: Most of the teens who have been sexually active live with sorrowful regret. Think of your virginity as a beautiful dress that you were going to wear to the prom. Now, imagine that dress after another has walked all over it with dark gook on his shoes. Yes, the dress can be cleaned, but it can never be fully cleaned to that pristine condition.
Fear of Trusting: If you have sexual relations, you will also wonder, ‘who all has he or she had sexual relations with besides me’?
Total Letdown: Deep down, many girls are romantics at heart, who see the guy of their dreams as one who protects them, not uses them for sexual gratification. Many boys, on the other hand, live by a two-edged sword; they see girls as sexual objects and at the same time are less attracted to girls who are sexually active.
The Truth: Yes, the truth is so old fashioned, but here it is, your body is your most valuable possession and should not just be given away for a moment’s pleasure of some boy who is pressuring you. For the young boy going after the young girl for sexual relations, it is like an animal running toward the slaughterhouse, not even knowing the danger that lies ahead.
We have all seen the teen shows or movies where the young girl gets pregnant, the father is angry, and the mother is disappointed, the friends abandon her, the boy dumps her, and she ends up leaving school. She ends up on government assistance and dating even worse young men, and then she becomes pregnant yet again. Before long, she is pushing a baby carriage into a grocery store with a newborn; she is placing a two-year-old in the store cart and has two young ones four and five walking next to her. We can hear her yelling at the misbehaved children all through the store.
If you have not given into the pressure to have sex at this point; then, learn from others mistakes. For those that have, you can never get back your innocence. This is true. However, all is not lost. You can get your life turned around, even if you ended up pregnant. You will have to work hard for this life change, but it is very much possible. Just as you, unfortunately, made a poor choice to give into pressure and gave up your most valuable possession, your virginity, to one who was unworthy, you do not have to repeat that with your second most valuable possession, your future.
Proverbs 7:22-23 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)
22 Suddenly he goes after her,
as an ox goes to the slaughter,
like a fool to be punished in the fetters
23 till an arrow pierces its liver;
as a bird rushes into a snare;
he does not know that it will cost him his life.
1 Corinthians 7:3 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)
3 The husband should give to his wife her marital due, and likewise the wife to her husband.
 Peer Pressure and Teen Sex | Psychology Today (July 14, 2017) https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/200305/peer-pressure-and-teen-sex