In the 1980s, a teen couple might be caught kissing behind the bleachers at a basketball or football game by a teacher. Today, it is an entirely different situation. The modern day junior high school children (13 and 14 years old); literally view oral sex as being no different than kissing one another on the lips. According to one survey, about 50% of all teens (15 to 19) have engaged in oral sex. Teens today do not think that oral sex is that big of a deal!

THE OUTSIDERThe thinking of the teen girls is that they cannot get pregnant but can please their boyfriend by performing oral sex. They do not see oral sex as sex. That is why they see oral sex as harmless. However, there are health risks to oral sex. They can contract hepatitis (A or B), genital warts, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV, and syphilis. Any conduct involving the genitals of another person, which would include intercourse, oral sex, anal sex, and masturbating another person, is sex. Denying something is something does not change what it is.

Oral sex can have harmful physical, emotional, and mental consequences, taking a toll on you. The young on having or performing oral sex can feel just as used, regretful, and vulnerable as any teen having vaginal sex. The same bad emotions that you might experience from having intercourse in the wrong set of circumstances can result from oral sex as well.

Sex can refer to such things as oral sex, anal sex, or masturbating another person. The truth is you have engaged in any of these forms of sex, you are no longer a virgin.

When we think of ethics, morality and the conscience, teens tend to drown that conversation out. However, let us touch on it briefly. Ethics is moral principles that govern a person’s behavior or the conducting of an activity. Morality is principles concerning the distinction between right and wrong or good and bad behavior. The conscience is an internal compass inside of every human that enables him or her to determine between right and wrong. These are not religious terms alone. Even atheists have ethical values, moral principles, and a conscience. As an illustration, think of the traffic laws in your city. Are they a restriction to your freedom or are they a protection? Yes, it is true that traffic laws restrict your absolute freedom but they also protect society from themselves and others. What has happened to many teens that have ignored the laws about texting and driving? Having good ethical values, moral principles, and a conscience may seem restrictive but they also help you protect your life and well-being. If you ignore them, you will certainly suffer the consequences of your own actions.

Galatians 6:7 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)

Do not be deceived: God is not to be mocked, for whatever a person sows, this he will also reap.

To support his admonition to give, Paul shares a principle of cause and effect. A grave warning states that God cannot be mocked. Why? Because a man reaps what he sows. Mocked means “to turn up one’s nose” or “treat with contempt.” One who turns up his nose at God and sneers at him doesn’t change this immutable “law of the harvest.” Disregarding God’s counsel, we will always suffer. Each of us by our thoughts, attitudes, and actions is constantly planting for a future reaping. Time may pass before the crop ripens, but the harvest is inevitable. Consider the harvest! In this application of the harvest principle, by giving (sowing) to our spiritual leaders, we can expect to reap a spiritual harvest of abundant ministry. In contrast, a Christian who fails to support his spiritual leaders is sneering at God and can expect discipline. Such a selfish Christian spends his resources to gratify his own personal desires. In contrast, the Christian who shares his finances adds interest to the capital of eternal life. In a broader application of this principle, remember there are no miracle crops. You reap spiritually, relationally, mentally, and physically in direct relation to what you plant. It is foolish to think that you can live irresponsibly and not suffer damaging consequences. Yet to the generous, Paul shares an encouraging promise: Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up. It is discouraging to continue to do good and not see a reward. Paul challenges the Galatians to keep on giving because God promises to reward those who are faithful in the long run.[1]

1 Peter 3:16 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)

16 having a good conscience, so that, when you are slandered, those who revile your good behavior in Christ may be put to shame.

If we maintain our testimony with gentleness and respect, we can be confident of operating with a clear conscience. This means that we should live in such a way that we won’t have to keep looking over our shoulder, hoping that the wrong we have done isn’t about to catch up to us.

By operating this way, our behavior and words will speak volumes to those who come against us. Peter promised that truth will prevail. What is not clear is whether the reference to the slanderers being ashamed refers to their present life or to the future day of God’s judgment. Most likely the text looks to a change of heart by the persecutors in this life as they are confronted by the gracious responses of the people they are persecuting.[2]

Thirteen Reasons to Keep Living_02Colossians 3:5 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)

Deaden, therefore, your members on the earth: sexual immorality,[3] uncleanness, passion, evil desire, and greediness, which is idolatry.

Evil Desire, lust, coveting, craving: (Gr. epithymia) This is an inordinate, self-indulgent craving to have what belongs to another or engage in what is morally wrong, which displaces our affection for God.–Gal. 5:16; 1 Tim. 6:9; 2 Tim. 2:22; 1 Pet. 1:14)

Matthew 5:28 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)

28 but I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

πιθυμία [epithumia] is a strong desire to have what belongs to another, as well as becoming involved in anything that is morally wrong, i.e., coveting, lusting, evil desires, and the like.

Ephesians 5:3 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)

But sexual immorality, and all uncleanness, or greediness, must not even be named among you, as is proper among holy ones;

Sexual Immorality: (Heb. zanah; Gr. porneia) A general term for immoral sexual acts of any kind: such as adultery, prostitution, sexual relations between people not married to each other, homosexuality, and bestiality.–Num. 25:1; Deut. 22:21; Matt. 5:32; 1 Cor. 5:1.

Galatians 5:19-21 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)

19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: sexual immorality, impurity, sensuality, 20 idolatry, sorcery, enmity, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, rivalries, dissensions, divisions, 21 envy, drunkenness, orgies, and things like these. I warn you, as I warned you before, that those who do such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

  Sensuality, debauchery, licentiousness, lewdness: (Gr. aselgeia) This is being completely unrestrained in our moral attitudes and behaviors, with the inference of sexual licentiousness. This is one who indulges in sensual pleasure without any regard for morality.–Mark 7:22; Rom. 13:13; 2 Cor. 12:21; Gal. 5:19; Eph. 4:19; 1 Pet. 4:3; 2 Pet. 2:2, 7, 18; Jude.

[1] Max Anders, Galatians-Colossians, vol. 8, Holman New Testament Commentary (Nashville, TN: Broadman & Holman Publishers, 1999), 79–80.

[2] David Walls and Max Anders, I & II Peter, I, II & III John, Jude, vol. 11, Holman New Testament Commentary (Nashville, TN: Broadman & Holman Publishers, 1999), 55.

[3] Gr porneia