Refusing Personal Retaliation — Matthew 5:38–42

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The Judicial Setting of “An Eye for an Eye”

Matthew 5:38–42 must begin with the setting Jesus Himself supplies, because His words answer a familiar statement from the Mosaic Law rather than an isolated proverb about everyday quarrels. Jesus says in Matthew 5:38, “You have heard that it was said, ‘An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth,’” language drawn from legal material found in Exodus 21:24 and Leviticus 24:20. In those passages, the principle regulated judicial punishment by requiring that a penalty correspond to the actual harm committed rather than exceed it through anger, favoritism, or personal vindictiveness. Deuteronomy 19:15–21 places the same principle within formal proceedings involving witnesses, investigation, judges, and punishment, demonstrating that the law belonged to the administration of justice rather than to private retaliation. A man who had been injured was therefore not authorized to pursue his neighbor through the streets and inflict whatever injury his wounded pride desired, because justice belonged under lawful judgment and proportional standards. The Mosaic command restrained vengeance by placing a ceiling on punishment, so a lost tooth did not justify killing an offender, a damaged eye did not justify destroying his household, and an insult did not authorize unlimited retaliation. This background is essential because Jesus was not condemning Jehovah’s Law as morally defective, since He had already stated in Matthew 5:17 that He had not come to abolish the Law and the Prophets. He was confronting the movement from regulated public justice to self-authorized private revenge, where a person takes a judicial formula and converts it into permission to answer every offense with equivalent or greater hostility. His disciples were therefore required to surrender the personal demand to repay injury with injury while continuing to recognize that legitimate authorities and judicial arrangements have a distinct responsibility to restrain wrongdoing, a principle also reflected in Romans 13:1–4.

What Jesus Means by Not Resisting the Wicked Person

Matthew 5:39 records Jesus saying, “Do not resist the one who is wicked,” and the examples that immediately follow define the kind of resistance He has in view. Jesus does not command Christians to assist criminals, remain silent before every injustice, submit children to abusers, abandon lawful protection, or treat every exercise of authority as sinful retaliation. Jesus Himself challenged an unjust blow in John 18:23 by asking the officer who struck Him to identify what He had spoken wrongly, demonstrating that refusing revenge does not require pretending that wrongdoing is righteous. The apostle Paul likewise invoked his lawful Roman citizenship when authorities were preparing to flog him without a proper hearing in Acts of the Apostles 22:25–29, showing that a Christian may appeal to legitimate legal protection without becoming vindictive. Romans 13:4 further describes governing authority as bearing responsibility to act against wrongdoing, which would make little sense if every form of resistance to evil were morally forbidden. The contrast in Matthew 5:38–42 therefore concerns personal retaliation, especially the instinct that says an insult must be answered with an insult, an inconvenience with obstruction, a financial demand with hostility, or compulsory service with spite. Jesus attacks the inward determination to make another person suffer because he has made us suffer, since that determination transfers judgment from lawful authority to personal anger. A disciple may speak truth, establish appropriate boundaries, seek lawful relief, protect another person from harm, and report criminal conduct while refusing hatred, cruelty, slander, revenge, and calculated humiliation. The governing question is not whether Christians must become defenseless before wickedness but whether their response is ruled by righteousness and love or by the desire to repay pain with pain.

Turning the Other Cheek and the Refusal of Insult for Insult

Jesus next gives the striking example, “whoever slaps you on your right cheek, turn the other to him also,” in Matthew 5:39, and the example focuses attention upon personal humiliation and the impulse to retaliate. A slap to the face can injure physically, but within ordinary human relationships it also communicates contempt, insult, and an attempt to provoke a reaction that escalates the conflict. Jesus does not tell the disciple that contempt is righteous, nor does He require the disciple to call abusive behavior acceptable, because His own conduct consistently distinguished forgiveness from approval of sin. His command addresses the retaliatory spirit that insists, “You embarrassed me, so I must embarrass you; you insulted me, so I must insult you more severely; you struck my dignity, so I must damage yours.” Proverbs 15:1 states that a gentle answer turns away wrath, whereas a harsh word stirs up anger, providing a practical expression of the same moral restraint in ordinary speech. Romans 12:17 commands Christians not to repay anyone evil for evil, and Romans 12:21 directs them not to be conquered by evil but to conquer evil with good. This principle becomes highly concrete when a coworker speaks disrespectfully, a relative makes a cutting remark, an unbeliever ridicules Christian conviction, or someone posts an insulting accusation intended primarily to provoke an angry response. Turning the other cheek means that the offender does not receive control of the Christian’s conscience, because another person’s sinful behavior does not acquire authority to dictate sinful behavior in return. Jesus therefore calls His followers to moral strength under insult, the strength to remain truthful without becoming vicious, courageous without becoming revengeful, and firm without allowing another person’s contempt to reproduce itself within their own conduct.

The Tunic, the Cloak, and Freedom From Vindictive Possessiveness

Matthew 5:40 moves from personal insult to a legal dispute when Jesus says that if someone wants to sue a disciple and take his tunic, the disciple should be prepared to let him have the cloak also. The picture concerns property of genuine value, because ordinary clothing in the ancient world represented practical necessity rather than merely fashion or disposable convenience. Jesus deliberately describes a situation in which the disciple possesses a legitimate material interest but refuses to let the dispute turn his heart into a fortress of hatred, greed, or retaliatory obsession. The command does not abolish property rights, since Scripture elsewhere condemns theft in Exodus 20:15 and commands the thief in Ephesians 4:28 to stop stealing, work honestly, and become capable of helping others. Nor does Jesus establish a rule that every unjust claimant must automatically receive whatever he demands, because such an interpretation would reward fraud, assist exploitation, and contradict the Bible’s repeated concern for truthful judgment. His concern is the disciple’s willingness to suffer material loss rather than violate righteousness in the attempt to defend every possession, every entitlement, or every point of personal honor. A Christian involved in a financial dispute may present records, explain a contract, answer false allegations, and use lawful procedures, yet he must refuse forged evidence, dishonest exaggeration, malicious gossip, threats, and vengeance. 1 Corinthians 6:7 illustrates the seriousness of this principle when Paul asks believers why they do not rather accept being wronged or defrauded than disgrace Christian brotherhood through destructive conflict. Jesus therefore forces the disciple to ask whether protecting a possession has become more important than protecting his integrity before the Father, because no garment, account, contract, or material advantage is worth becoming unrighteous to retain.

Going the Second Mile Under Compulsory Service

Matthew 5:41 introduces another concrete situation: “Whoever forces you to go one mile, go with him two,” language that would have communicated compulsory service rather than a pleasant voluntary walk. Roman authority could impose requirements upon subject peoples, and Matthew 27:32 provides a Gospel example when Simon of Cyrene was compelled to carry Jesus’ execution stake. Compulsion naturally generates resentment because another person has interrupted one’s plans, imposed upon one’s strength, and exercised authority that one would not voluntarily have granted him. Jesus directs His disciple to defeat resentment by refusing to perform the required service with a heart consumed by bitterness, obstruction, insult, and calculation about the minimum amount of cooperation possible. Going the second mile does not declare every command righteous, because Acts of the Apostles 5:29 establishes the higher rule that obedience to God takes precedence when human authorities demand what contradicts His will. It does mean that lawful but unpleasant obligations should not automatically become occasions for rebellion of spirit, calculated incompetence, sarcastic compliance, or private schemes of revenge. The principle applies when an employee is given an inconvenient but legitimate assignment, when a citizen must fulfill an ordinary lawful responsibility, or when family duty requires time and effort that interfere with personal preference. Colossians 3:23 directs Christians to work whole-souled as for the Lord rather than merely for men, placing ordinary obligations beneath a higher consciousness of accountability to Jehovah and Christ. The second mile therefore reveals freedom rather than servility, because the disciple refuses to let compulsion determine his moral character and transforms an unwanted obligation into an opportunity for disciplined, willing, and honorable conduct.

Giving, Lending, and Wisdom Without Hardness

Matthew 5:42 completes the section with Jesus’ instruction, “Give to him who asks of you, and do not turn away from one that wants to borrow from you,” moving the disciple from refusing retaliation to actively cultivating generosity. The command directly opposes the hard heart that reasons that because people can be selfish, dishonest, irresponsible, or ungrateful, no one deserves assistance and every request should therefore be treated with suspicion. Deuteronomy 15:7–11 had already instructed Israel not to harden the heart or close the hand toward a poor brother, demonstrating Jehovah’s concern that material possession should never eliminate compassion. Jesus carries that concern into His instruction to disciples by requiring an open disposition toward genuine need rather than a life organized around possessive self-protection. At the same time, Scripture never commands generosity that knowingly finances wickedness, enables fraud, rewards deliberate laziness, or abandons responsibilities to one’s own household, since 2 Thessalonians 3:10–12 condemns refusal to work and 1 Timothy 5:8 emphasizes family obligation. Christian giving therefore combines compassion with discernment, because the aim is to help the person rather than merely surrender money without regard for what the assistance will accomplish. A hungry person can be given food, a struggling believer can receive practical help, a responsible borrower can be treated with mercy, and a person trapped in destructive behavior can be helped in a form that does not finance the destruction. Proverbs 3:27 says not to withhold good from those to whom it is due when it is within one’s power to act, showing that the biblical question is not merely whether wealth is legally mine but whether love requires useful generosity. Jesus thus dismantles both vengeance and selfishness, forming disciples who are difficult to provoke into retaliation yet ready to respond constructively when another person has a legitimate need.

Justice Without Revenge and Mercy Without Surrendering Truth

Matthew 5:38–42 does not erase justice; it places justice in its proper sphere while removing personal vengeance from the disciple’s heart. The Christian who has been wronged can distinguish the sentence “This action was wrong and must be addressed” from the sentence “I want this person to suffer because I suffered,” and that distinction is central to Jesus’ teaching. Romans 12:19 tells believers not to avenge themselves but to leave room for God’s judgment, while 1 Peter 2:23 presents Jesus as the supreme example because when He was reviled He did not revile in return but entrusted Himself to the One who judges righteously. Jesus’ own behavior proves that nonretaliation is compatible with courage, since He rebuked hypocrisy, exposed falsehood, answered accusations, challenged unlawful conduct, and nevertheless refused to become morally like His enemies. A Christian parent can protect a child without hatred, an employer can discipline dishonesty without humiliation, a congregation can address serious wrongdoing without vindictiveness, and an injured person can use lawful channels without constructing life around revenge. Refusing retaliation also protects the believer spiritually, because revenge continually feeds on remembered injuries and invites the offended person to rehearse another person’s sin until bitterness becomes a governing occupation. Ephesians 4:31–32 commands Christians to put away malicious bitterness and wrath while becoming kind, compassionate, and forgiving, which directly addresses the internal condition from which retaliatory behavior grows. Jesus therefore calls His disciples to something far stronger than passive surrender: disciplined control of speech, emotion, property, rights, and responses under the authority of Jehovah’s revealed standards. The person who refuses private revenge has not declared evil good; he has declared that evil will not be permitted to recruit him into committing another evil in return.

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About the Author

EDWARD D. ANDREWS (AS in Criminal Justice, BS in Religion, MA in Biblical Studies, and MDiv in Theology) is CEO and President of Christian Publishing House. He has authored over 220+ books. In addition, Andrews is the Chief Translator of the Updated American Standard Version (UASV).

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