Steps to Overcoming Insecurity
Isaiah 41:10 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)
10 fear not, for I am with you;
be not anxious, for I am your God;
I will strengthen you, I will help you,
I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
The truth is, we all feel insecure at times in our life. Maybe our former spouse committed adultery on us and we feel insecure. Maybe our former spouse was verbally abusive and we are worried about our current relationship. The important thing is not whether we feel insecure at times but rather how do we deal with it? Some people wallow in it and let it dominate and control their lives. To some insecure people wallowing in their insecurities is actually a place of security because they are trying to prevent the past from repeating itself.
King David described God as a refuge and fortress. When we are insecure, we need to go to the Father in prayer before anything else. We need to replace our irrational thinking with rational thoughts as we talk things through with the Father. The only true place of security is with our personal relationship with our Father. However, our spouse is also a place of refuge.
Just because we may have suffered from insecurities, this does not mean that we stop trying to improve, as we grow stronger. We may have developed an insecure feeling from past experiences. However, with the help of God and our spouse, we can easily change things about ourselves
When we go to God and trust our spouse, it can become our strength. With God in our marriage, we become a perfect team. We need to grow in understanding of what it is that has us insecure and remove these thoughts from our mind in a permanent way. we need to be open and honest about our insecurities with our spouse. We need to face these things head on and apply Bible principles in our lives.
We need to stop thinking that everything in life is all about us. Our way of thinking can either be the best thing for our marriage or the worst. It is up to us to make the needed adjustments. We need to let go of the past life, live in the now, or we will not have a future. We need to stop looking at everything as though it is black and white because there are exceptions to some things. Worry can become addictive if we let it get out of control. A little worry is very good because it keeps us safe but too much worry can be exhausting and destructive. We need to be able to have conversations with our spouse about these things, it will help us grow closer to our marriage mate. Lastly, we need to quit depending on just ourselves and need to depend on the person we married.