Strive to Be a Lowly One
Proverbs 6:3 Updated American Standard Version (UASV)
3 Do this then, my son, and deliver yourself,
for you have come into the palm of your neighbor:
go, humble yourself, plead with your neighbor.
Apologizing to others can be very difficult for most of us. However, those serving God must cultivate the spirit of a lowly one, meaning that we are ready to admit and own up to our mistakes and asking others to forgive us. Moreover, if another causes us pain or causes an offense to us, we are a lowly one, in that, we are reading to forgive as we have been forgiven. Pride nurtures division and contention, forgiveness promotes peace with our friends, family, and within the Christian congregation. We may very well need to humble ourselves by sincerely apologizing to another person. A weak apology is no real apology at all. To simply say that we ‘are sorry’ and then move on as though we have done nothing is not really a sincere apology. We must be contrite, sorry, remorseful, repentant, regretful and apologetic.
What is a sincere apology? First, we should have spent some time pondering what we had done wrong, to the point where we can express it to the wronged person. Second, our body language and facial expressions should signify or denote that we are truly sincere and regretful for our transgressing against this one. Even if the other person has some measure of guilt themselves, this is no concern to the lowly one, for our primary concern is ourselves with our shortcomings and our willingness to admit them. (Prov. 6:1-5) Suppose we said something that hurt another person because we misunderstood something that was said or done. Now, suppose in the course of expressing our misunderstanding to the other person, the other person gets upset and momentarily loses their temper. If we get lost in the fact that the other person lost their temper, we have truly lost sight of being a lowly one and recognizing our responsibility for contributing to their losing their temper in the first place. Rather than focus on the other, we should focus on the fact that we misunderstood and falsely accused or that we said something hurtful. The Scriptures are our guide in this matter, which encourages us to adopt a lowliness of mind. – Luke 9:48; Acts 20:19; Ephesians 4:1-2; Philippians 2:1-3; Colossians 3:12; and 1 Peter 5:5.